The hidden secrets and shame of infidelity are all too common and negatively affect individuals, families, children, and communities. Let's not hide behind closed doors while suffering in silence. Instead, lets bring awareness to the hurt and pain that this behavior causes; let's support those who are suffering behind those walls of shame, pity, blame, and embarrassment; and, let's seek to make positive social change in such behavior. Together we can, but we must not be afraid to Rise Up and Raise Awareness!
Christina R. Ferguson, MS, CPC
Founder, Infidelity Hurts Awareness Day
(formerly Infidelity SPeaKS Awareness Day)
Christina says, “Life does not come with an instruction manual; it is simply a day-to-day experience.” One usually has a mental picture of how life is supposed to unfold, but it doesn’t always go as planned. What happens then? After having gone through several traumatic events in her marriage, including infidelity, Christina Ferguson founded the first Infidelity SPeaKS Awareness Day in 2015. She knew she was not alone in her experiences and wanted others in similar situations to unite and overcome their personal tragedies.
Christina has a master's degree in psychology and is currently pursuing her doctoral degree. She is a Certified Professional Coach and the Executive Director of The ANIYA Group in Washington, D.C. She is a licensed Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway® trainer and she maintains memberships in the American Psychological Association, Learning Disabilities Association of America, and National Association of Self-Esteem.
“The vision for Infidelity SPeaKS is to bring this topic front and center and to shed light on such devastating behavior. It is disturbing to hear about the number of relationships that infidelity has impacted and even more frustrating to witness how acceptable this behavior has become. The goal of Infidelity SPeaKS is to stand up against infidelity. This movement challenges us to look into the heart of the matter.”
(formerly Infidelity SPeaKS Awareness Day)
Cheating on your partner is not the exciting experience it’s presented as in the movies, even if it may seem so at first. Infidelity destroys relationships, usually making it impossible for the person cheated on to ever trust the cheater with his or her heart again. It tears parents away from their children, leaving the latter feeling betrayed, deserted and undeserving of attention and love. Cheating can also become something of an addiction, causing the cheater to continue to ruin one relationship after another with his or her infidelity and never find true happiness. Still, despite all of these terrible consequences and many more, millions of people the world over continue to cheat on their significant others each year. Infidelity SPeaKS Awareness day was created to help people understand just how badly infidelity affects all of those involved.
The History of Infidelity SPeaKS Awareness Day
The History of Infidelity SPeaKS Awareness Day was created by Christina Ferguson, a graduate of Hampton University and a member of the American Psychological Association, Learning Disabilities Association of America, and National Association of Self-Esteem. Christina founded Infidelity SPeaKS Awareness Day after having herself gone through several traumatic events in her relationships because she knew she was not alone in her experiences and wanted others in similar situations to unite and overcome their personal tragedies. In Christina’s own words:
“The vision for Infidelity SPeaKS is to bring this topic front and
center and to shed light on such devastating behavior. It is... read more
To eradicate normalizing and promoting infidelity as an acceptable and notable behavior by bringing awareness to the emotional and psychological consequences experienced by individuals, children, families, and communities. To offer encouragement and support to those who might suffer in silence as they rebuild their lives and relationships.
Hi Christina, I'm in accordance with your mission. It's really time to address this chaotic circumstance that is becoming normalized. I've been on both sides of the fence. I know the downside, not pretty. I appreciate all that you're trying to do. It's time!! Best, ~Elda M. Lopez, Author, The (IN)Fidelity Factor
I'm delighted to see an approach to infidelity that acknowledges the devastation and shame the betrayed partner can experience...and encourages a productive and healing approach to such a widespread issue. Kudos to you! ~Elle, Betrayed Wives Club