Infidelity Hurts Virtual Summit
2017

Out of the Darkness of Infidelity ...

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Rise up and raise awareness.  Together we can.  Together we will.

 

The hidden secrets and shame of infidelity are all too common and negatively affect individuals, families, children, and communities.  Let's not hide behind closed doors while suffering in silence.  Instead, lets bring awareness to the hurt and pain that this behavior causes; let's support those who are suffering behind those walls of shame, pity, blame, and embarrassment; and, let's seek to make positive social change in such behavior.  Together we can, but we must not be afraid to Rise Up and Raise Awareness!

Rise Up
Andra Day (Cheers To The Fall)
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Christina R. Ferguson, MS, CPC

Founder, Infidelity Hurts Awareness Day

(formerly Infidelity SPeaKS Awareness Day)


Christina says, “Life does not come with an instruction manual; it is simply a day-to-day experience.”  One usually has a mental picture of how life is supposed to unfold, but it doesn’t always go as planned.  What happens then?  After having gone through several traumatic events in her marriage, including infidelity, Christina Ferguson founded the first Infidelity SPeaKS Awareness Day in 2015.  She knew she was not alone in her experiences and wanted others in similar situations to unite and overcome their personal tragedies.


Christina has a master's degree in psychology and is currently pursuing her doctoral degree.  She is a Certified Professional Coach and the Executive Director of The ANIYA Group in Washington, D.C.  She is a licensed Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway® trainer and she maintains memberships in the American Psychological Association, Learning Disabilities Association of America, and National Association of Self-Esteem.


Find out more about Coach Christina and her infidelity coaching services here.

 

“The vision for the Infidelity Hurts Movement is to bring this topic front and center and to shed light on such devastating behavior.  It is disturbing to hear about the number of relationships that infidelity has impacted and even more frustrating to witness how acceptable this behavior has become.  The goal of the movement is to look into the heart of the matter and stand up against infidelity.


 

Infidelity Hurts Awareness Day Featured on Days of the Year

(formerly Infidelity SPeaKS Awareness Day)

Cheating on your partner is not the exciting experience it’s presented as in the movies, even if it may seem so at first. Infidelity destroys relationships, usually making it impossible for the person cheated on to ever trust the cheater with his or her heart again. It tears parents away from their children, leaving the latter feeling betrayed, deserted and undeserving of attention and love. Cheating can also become something of an addiction, causing the cheater to continue to ruin one relationship after another with his or her infidelity and never find true happiness. Still, despite all of these terrible consequences and many more, millions of people the world over continue to cheat on their significant others each year. Infidelity SPeaKS Awareness day was created to help people understand just how badly infidelity affects all of those involved.


The History of Infidelity SPeaKS Awareness Day

The History of Infidelity SPeaKS Awareness Day was created by Christina Ferguson, a graduate of Hampton University and a member of the American Psychological Association, Learning Disabilities Association of America, and National Association of Self-Esteem. Christina founded Infidelity SPeaKS Awareness Day after having herself gone through several traumatic events in her relationships because she knew she was not alone in her experiences and wanted others in similar situations to unite and overcome their personal tragedies. In Christina’s own words:


“The vision for Infidelity SPeaKS is to bring this topic front and center and to shed light on such devastating behavior. It is... read more
 
 

Mission:

To eradicate normalizing and promoting infidelity as an acceptable and notable behavior by bringing awareness to the emotional and psychological consequences experienced by individuals, children, families, and communities.  To offer encouragement and support to those who might suffer in silence as they rebuild their lives and relationships. 

 

Vision:

  • Bring awareness to the topic of infidelity and its impact on individuals and families.
  • Support individuals impacted by infidelity by offering encouragement for those who rebuild their marriages and providing coping measures for individuals who start anew after divorce resulting from infidelity.
  • Initiate and promote healthy dialogue regarding the causes, effects, and prevention of infidelity.
  • Identify resources and create a safe space for the betrayed to connect, communicate, and share. 
  • We do not offer advice or professional therapy.  Nor do we pass judgement.
 

Facts:

  • Percentage of marriages in which one or both spouses admit to infidelity, either physical or emotional: 41%
  • Percentage of men who admit to infidelity in any relationship they've had: 57%
  • Percentage of women who admit to infidelity in any relationship they've had: 54%
  • Percentage of men who say they would have an affair if they knew they would never get caught: 74%
  • Percentage of women who say they would have an affair if they knew they would never get caught: 68%
  • A significant amount of domestic violence stems either directly or indirectly from infidelity, suspected infidelity, or accusations of infidelity.
  • Unresolved shame and grief of affected individuals might lead to hopelessness, depression, or other mental health issues, including anxiety disorders and substance abuse.
  • The emotional damage is reflected in what some mental health professionals call Post-Infidelity Stress Disorder (PISD), the stress and emotional turmoil experienced after learning of a partner's infidelity.
 
“What an incredible event! And long, long overdue. We've been hoping for something like this to bring national attention to the issue of infidelity, which despite its prevalence in media, movies, and television is still an issue people don't want to discuss - or speak out.”   ~Infidelity Counseling Network, Palo Alto, California


Hi Christina, I'm in accordance with your mission.  It's really time to address this chaotic circumstance that is becoming normalized.  I've been on both sides of the fence.  I know the downside, not pretty.  I appreciate all that you're trying to do. It's time!!   Best, ~Elda M. Lopez, Author, The (IN)Fidelity Factor



I'm delighted to see an approach to infidelity that acknowledges the devastation and shame the betrayed partner can experience...and encourages a productive and healing approach to such a widespread issue. Kudos to you! ~Elle, Betrayed Wives Club